Actually as the great shaggy haired guy in the sky said"everything is relative." and anyway i wasnt saying that this is what i do or that cheating was an ok thing for me. what i was trying to point out was that most guys feel like this when they cheat. besides im not saying cheating is right im just trying to explain why guys cheat. as for self control it really depend on the person. ive got a very strong control on all my urges(sexual and others). actually i believe cheating is wrong,but... sometime's when the food is already served on the table theres nothing to do but say might as well. But remember thisbefore you do anything stupid you shoudl think about it if its worth losing the woman you love, just because you had a one night stand with a woman you dont even know well. anyway another possible reason for cheating is that the current relationship he is in, is because his partner just doesnt know what she wants in the relationship and is making the guys life harder than he can take that he feels he has to escape. (look at my article titled women!!!). anyway i still say that cheating is wrong and im pretty sure i never said it was a good thing anyway thanks for the feedback hope to hear(or read) from you soon.

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