I don't think most women would appreciate that point of view. For most men, however, it is a struggle between the desire to "sample different tastes" and honoring ones commitments.

I think some men have problems with their self-image. They look into the mirror and see someone who's not as appealing as they used to be, and they must prove to themselves that they've "still got it" by sleazing around with another woman.

Then, after they've "bagged" (man's term) another woman and walk away thinking that they're the best thing since sliced bread, they waltz back into their life at home as if nothing's happened. Wrong. It just proves that the man is weak and cannot hold up to his end of the commitment that he made the day he was married.

How about this: Man is distinct from beast in 2 ways- He eats with utensils and he HAS THE ABILITY TO CONTROL HIS SEXUAL URGES

I suppose if the wife finds out, you can say goodbye to that roast chicken!

you said it girl!

Hey, TexasNurse2,

Men eat with their hands and don't control their sexual urges...so man IS a beast, isn't he! Hee! Hee!

What can you expect from a man but to make up an explanaation like that to condone their behaviour. Cheating hurts the ones you love or dont love. Because you couldnt love your wife if this is the way you feel. There are things that can be done to men like you. But the law wont allow it. Can you you say meat in a grinder.....

Why can't a person just leave the relationship instead of cheating??????? isn't it an obvious sign to move on???????? Talk about weak people!!!!!!!!!! I mean to say that if you are cheating or considering the act, then you have lost respect and regard for your partner....so do her/him a favour and get out.....give her/him a chance to move on with life instead of being stuck with someone who has lost their feeling and commitment for their parnter. Yes, those who cheat are weak and damaged souls.

The wife just needs to find new roast chicken recipes

If you are that bored, you can assume that she is, too. Would it be OK for her to find out what it's like to serve her roast chicken to the pizza delivery boy? Road runs both ways........

"as they say variety adds spice to life right?" Or in this case, it could end your life. There are real good things to monogamous relationships.

The problem here is that the doors swings both ways. I've known of many women who cheat on their husbands for the exact same reason the men go looking for their trophy fuck. I see a lot of negative comments by women in this post saying that men can't control their sexual urges...well, you know what ladies, women get just as horny as we do. I don't condone cheating on your SO whether you're a man or a woman. I've had the opportunity a couple of times to cheat on my wife, but I didn't. I made a lifelong commitment to her, and my integrity means more to me than a quick lay from some chick I meet at a bar.

People nowadays just don't understand the concept of being with the same person *forever*. I think too many people don't realise that when they enter into marriage, they better be damn sure that they're willing to spend the rest of their life with this person. That's an awfully long time, and in this age of microwave kids, I think it's greatly misunderstood. I've been married for over five years now. Some days it feels like fifty, some it feels like 5 days. I love my wife dearly, and would never cheat on her, no matter how tempting a situation might be. Besides, she'd cut off my gonads if she found out.

Thanks for all the input people. anyway to tell you the truth, i have had 4 real relationships and in all of them i never once cheated. Im very proud of this fact. this was posted because my friends and i were drinking and was also talking about cheating among other things. i posted this becuase i found this response to be funny(i know that cheating is not funny, what i mean is the way he put it). if anyone was offended than im sorry, but remember this is my blog and i can put anything i want here so... if you dont like what i posted here, you can always check out my other posts. anyway thanks again for the feedback. i hope you all have a great 2004.

Ed

The DNA chain is so vast and complex we still have no ideal what switches turn on what aspects of our being.

The basic essential universal laws are to mate and carry on the species. Unbeknownst to the vast majority of society is this very key to natural selection, adaptation and primal instincts. In almost ever species of animal the male must strut its stuff, run off the other males, inflate its throat sacks, etc. Then if you are worthy the female seeing that you are a strong case for survival has sex with you to carry on humanity. It boils down to a lack of will and self discipline over natural cycles of our beastly desires in the face of social stigmatism.

Honesty works the best. If you are incapable of being faithful (women cheat just as much as men) then be honest with your partner from the start, because if your not honest you are just setting yourself up for a disasterous relationship most the time. There are plenty of women who believe in open relationships and that is great as long as you have integrity using honesty.

Men cheat because they are "spiritually lazy". They like to blame their cheating on genetics, hormones, biology, and their inability to overcome these obstacles to cheating. What they don't like to talk about is that it all boils down to choice, integrity, ethics, and honesty.

One makes a conscious decision to cheat or not to cheat. The decision that one makes regarding this has to do with the level of integrity of the person who's doing the cheating. The lower the level of integrity, the higher the probability is that the man will cheat. There is an inverse relationship between low levels of integrity and high probablities of cheating. He will use all of the excuses in the book for why he's doing it, but the simple fact of the matter is that he does it because he has no character. He does it because he is selfish. He does it because he does not care about the welfare of others, especially not his wife's welfare, or the welfare of women in general.

A mature man is able to conduct his life along lines such as these:

1. He is able to commit to the right person when she comes along.
2. He is able to keep his zipper up when he's not with his wife.
3. He is able to SEE THE BENEFITS of keeping his zipper up when he's not with his wife. He sees how it benefits the relationship to remain faithful.
4. He is able to talk to his wife about potential problems within the relationship, and is able to work through these problems in a way that keeps everyone satisfied.

It takes a grown up to conduct his life in this manner. The sad fact of the matter is that many men are not grown ups - no matter HOW OLD THEY ARE.

Mr. Frog is the only one to win any points here. He answered correctly that for every man cheating there is a woman under him (or on top, etc). This is true now and always has been, we just choose to ignore it due to the social more of reasons for the now archaic institution of marrriage. To hold cheating as vice in today's culture is as futile as handing out speeding tickets at the Indy500.
Marriage is obsolete, and I would never let my Son do so as it serves only to expose the male to risk of loss of income, rights under common-law to even see his own offspring under threat of arrest and imprisonment, and he has no chance of ever winning in a Court of divorce due to social stigma and function. Maybe in ten years as the old generation pass on with their obsolete views such a evolutionary re-write of marriage will come into being, but the days of fidelity, honor, economic necessity, religious acknowledgement and validation, are over. (You can't even find a guy[outside Red Sox and Cubs fans] who's allegiance to his baseball team exceeds thier last losing season, they keep different caps for whoever wins to appear to be a 'winner' fan). Save yourself a whole lot of money and just live together until you don't want to anymore. Then you can break up if infidelity is that significant to you, and not be trapped by the obsolete marriage contract into trying to survive it, and living in misery with someone you resent and begrudge.

Hmm i was talking about cheating in general, not just husbands who cheat on their wives. besides women cheat too. i should know. anyway yeah if you feel you're not ready for a commitment, why dont you just tell the one you are currently with that you're just not ready, besides sometimes being honest works.

Wahk and Frog, minus five points each. It may be true that each cheating man has a co-conspiritor (spelling...) who is a women, but the difference is that a promiscuous women is likely to have had sex (cheated) with several men, whereas a cheating man generally does not cheat with too many different women. Women are by nature extremists.

~Dan